And this is why I never speak to people about my relationship, even though it sucks to keep everything bottled inside which leads to mas introspection and sometimes heavy drinking. Because when you break that rule that you made for yourself and you maybe start letting a few things out – to get an outside opinion or just to vent – you open yourself to the possibility that someone (good hearted and well meaning as they may be) will say something alluding to what you’ve said to your significant other over drinks one night.*
Said significant other may think nothing of the comment at the time but then, after you’ve left the bar and gone to bed, they’ve had time to think about it and turn it over in their head and come up with possible meanings and blow the whole thing out of proportion. And the above scenario may or may not have the power to ruin your whole morning and quite possibly your day.
So the moral to this story? It’s just like my mom always said… If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
*Totally hypothetically. Of course.